I've had an interesting career: a journey through corporate life that eventually led me to negotiating multi-million pound contracts in the UK and India, followed by an ongoing voyage of personal development that has seen me training in counselling, coaching, and becoming an Image Consultant with Europe's leading Image Company, Colour Me Beautiful.
That led me to set up Spectrum Coaching and Consultancy to offering Self-Image and Confidence Coaching whilst giving women the makeover they needed to start to love the person they saw in the mirror.
Many of my clients were women who were going through some kind of life transition, and often it was divorce. Working with these women, who were overwhelmed by the situation they were in, I became aware that the skills I learned to make strategic buying decisions in corporate life could be adapted to help women create a negotiation strategy to agree their financial settlement in a way that suited their personality and circumstances to obtain the best outcome they needed.
The reasons I'm drawn to share this with you is because when I got divorced, I was driven from a place of very raw emotion that proved costly in financial and emotional terms and dragged on for years before we finally agreed our Financial Settlement. That held me back from fully engaging in the rest of my life for far longer than was healthy for me.
If I had known there was a way to cut through all of the overwhelming thoughts that I was experiencing to identify the key things that were important to me, as well as understanding the impact of the routes I could take to negotiate, and how I could present my position to my Ex in a way that was designed to appeal to his personality type, so that we could have achieved, if not a Win-Win, at least a "Minimise the Damage for Both Parties" Situation, I would have taken it. Even if you have every reason to be angry and want to hurt your Ex at this point, it's not necessarily going to be the most effective solution for your long term future.
With Rising from the Ashes, I'm pulling together the strands of my experience which will support you to be able to emerge from your divorce more strongly and confidently than if you were doing it on your own - or even with supportive friends and family, because with them, you run the risk of working to a different agenda. You may be influenced by:
- THEIR bad experiences
- THEIR fears for themselves
- THEIR concerns for you
None of that comes from a bad place, but it can lead to you restricting yourself so you adapt your behaviour because you don't want to let them down, disappoint or offend them by rejecting their advice.
Working directly with me, or following one of the programmes available, allows you safety to explore your own feelings and to make up your own mind based on what's important to you.